- Avoidants think they control the pace of the relationship. You must shatter that illusion by removing your availability entirely.
HOW TO DO IT :
- Send this when they finally reach out to hang out: 'Honestly, my schedule is insanely packed for the next few weeks, so I probably won't have time to link. But I'll let you know if anything opens up.'
WHY IT WORKS :
- You didn't ask a question. You didn't leave room for negotiation. You 'bench' them. An avoidant's biggest fear is being completely discarded. Their ego will panic, and they will immediately start double-texting to try and secure their spot in your life again. You are the prize.
